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Prayers and Players

 


I received this email rather late in the evening the other day.  I’m guessing you all got it, but just in case, I thought you might be interested.

Shabbat Shalom

rebhayim

 

 

Dear Hevreh,

I know this must be weird, an email from God… Let’s face it, this is so not my style.  Ever since the big miracle days I prefer signs and omens.  I go with the subtle approach, the corner of the eye kind of sign that makes you guys do double takes.  You know, those, “Hey did you see that?  Huh?  Did you?”  See and now I realize I used the word ‘guys’ as an all-inclusive noun.  Is the word ‘guys’ colloquial or do women hate it? I don’t really like words – they tend to cause more problems than they’re worth.  Language…

Anyway, let me share with you the reason for my writing.  This whole Super Bowl XLVI thing has Me a bit, well, I guess bewildered would be the right word.  What’s all this talk, what’re all of these words about the Super Bowl and praying? Cute Gisele Bundchen emailing friends to say a prayer for her equally cute husband Tom Brady is just the tip of the iceberg.

I’ve been mulling this over ever since all the hoopla about that kid Tim Tebow or Tivo or whatever his name is.  I mean, seriously, human beings, why are you bugging me about games?  Look, I know you like games.  You’ve always liked to play: feats of strength, wrestling, running in circles, throwing spears and javelins and discuses and balls and shot puts (you do love to throw), curling, broomball, Thunderdome, cricket (which I still don’t understand – and I’m God…), and so many more.  You seem to have so much fun with them, though the cruelty of some games is crazy.  Anyway, go in good health – gei gezunter heit.

But do you really think I have any interest in your games at all?  If I were a human, which I’m not, and I know that’s going to cause some problems with my Christian friends, but so be it, I’d be one of those folks going to the movies this Sunday night – even if I lived in Foxboro.  Games are all and only about you.  I’m honored when that big David Ortiz fellow points up to the Heavens when he crosses home plate (ok, I follow the game a little bit).  I think all that crossing some Catholic athletes do before swinging, catching, riding or punching someone is authentic and honorable, but utterly without the faintest connection to Me. 

If David Ortiz makes a homerun, don’t thank Me.  I had nothing to do with it.  If Tom Brady throws for 400 yards and 7 touchdowns on Sunday, I’ll be happy for him.  But it won’t be because his cute wife did a chainmail prayer circle.  Hand-eye coordination, amazing skill, is all you.  How does a quarterback throw a ball 25 yards and have it end up in the arms of a man running at top speed who’s not even looking for the ball?  Do you think I really understand that?  Do you think I gave Mozart his composing genius?  Do think I had anything to do with how Coltrane created sheets of sound from one horn?  Do think I endowed Stephen Hawking with his genius?  That’s not Me.  My genius – and here I’m not being very humble – my genius is that I made certain you are replicas of no one else. Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, that Facebook kid, Sister Theresa, Billie Holiday, Marie Curie, etc., etc… You’re all unique treasures.  I spend no more time on the NFL than I do on the softball time from Cromwell, CT or the lizard bladder contest in Belize.  I love the hopelessly disabled man institutionalized in a small boarding facility with the same love I shower upon Heidi Klum AND Seal.

While I agree that there is a prayer for the Czar, there’s no prayer for winning a game – or losing one, for that matter.  So stop asking rabbis and ministers and priests and imams and sorcerers and Zen masters to pray for a win.  It’s not going to work.

Here’s what you can do.  Recite these words before the Super Bowl, and before the end of every day: Thank you for my life and my consciousness and my perception and the opportunity I have to live my life with joy and thanks for those around me who make my life complete.  Thank you for Tom Brady and his teammates.  Thanks for the cooks at Blue Ribbon Barbeque.  Thanks for the fire fighter who is prepared to save me and mine.  Thank you for the people who make this world crazy, magnificent, and confusing.  Thank you for inspiration to be my best self.

You’re welcome.

God

 

 

 

 

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The Winds of War

The winds of war are blowing. We can see the storm clouds, once distant and vague, darkening as they begin to color the sky. For years we’ve listened to voices from Iran – hateful, contemptuous, murderous – enunciate a determined policy to destroy the Jewish State and as many Jews as they can get their hands on. According to the ADL, President Ahmadinejad termed Zionists “the most detested people in all humanity” and called the extermination of six million Jews during World War II “a myth,” claiming that Jews have played up Nazi atrocities during the Holocaust in a bid to extort sympathy for Israel from European governments.
Of course we’ve survived all kinds of antisemitic rhetoric for the past 2000 years. Iranian antisemitism is neither more nor less virulent than any other form we’ve encountered. What can anyone say that hasn’t already been said by Haman?
The difference, the frightening new dimension to this ridiculous talk is that Iran is developing the capacity to create a nuclear weapon. This fact is as they call it, a game changer. And when we ask the all-important Jewish litmus test question, “Is it good for the Jews?,” the answer is unambiguously no.
What are we to do? What is the best course of action? These and other questions are no longer on a back burner. In capitals from Jerusalem to Washington to Teheran to Cairo to Moscow to Beijing to Paris and beyond, these questions are researched and evaluated. The answers aren’t going to be simply interesting – they will determine the future and possibly the survival of Israel.
In the upcoming New York Times Magazine, Ronen Bergman muses over 3 questions in a bluntly named article, “Will Israel Attack Iran?”:
1. Does Israel have the ability to cause severe damage to Iran’s nuclear sites and bring about a major delay in the Iranian nuclear project? And can the military and the Israeli people withstand the inevitable counterattack?
2. Does Israel have overt or tacit support, particularly from America, for carrying out an attack?
3. Have all other possibilities for the containment of Iran’s nuclear threat been exhausted, bringing Israel to the point of last resort? If so, is this the last opportunity for an attack?
These three questions are stark and unavoidable. As Iran gets closer to nuclear weapon capability, and as their rhetoric further encourages the rattling of Iranian sabers, the choices will grow more and more difficult. It’ also worth noting that there is no consensus, here or in Israel, about what to do. Prime Minister Netanyahu and Defense Minister Ehud Barak both seem certain that an Israeli attack is inevitable. Yet a senior official from the Israeli Defense Department itself recently said, “I informed the cabinet we have no ability to hit the Iranian nuclear program in a meaningful way. If I get the order I will do it, but we don’t have the ability to hit in a meaningful way.”
Ronen concludes that, “Israel will indeed strike Iran in 2012. Perhaps in the small and ever-diminishing window that is left, the United States will choose to intervene after all, but here, from the Israeli perspective, there is not much hope for that. Instead there is that peculiar Israeli mixture of fear – rooted in the sense that Israel is dependent on the tacit support of other nations to survive – and tenacity, the fierce conviction, right or wrong, that only the Israelis can ultimately defend themselves.”
Matthew Kroenig, in Foreign Affairs, writes “Iran’s rapid nuclear development will ultimately force the United States to choose between a conventional conflict and a possible nuclear war. Faced with that decision, the United States should conduct a surgical strike on Iran’s nuclear facilities, absorb an inevitable round of retaliation, and then seek to quickly de-escalate the crisis.”
Barry Rubin (pjmedia.com) writes, “But here’s what’s most likely going to happen: Iran will get nuclear weapons. Iran is not going to stop its nuclear drive (though it could stop short of actually building bombs or warheads ready to go). Western policies are not so bold or adventurous as to go to war; Israel’s interests and capabilities do not make attacking sensible. An attack would not solve but increase problems.
And no matter how crazy you think Iran’s regime is, the inescapable predicable threat is not high enough to force policymakers to risk getting hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions of people killed, when the chance of avoiding such an outcome is very high. I am not talking here about Hezbollah firing a few rockets (Hamas might well do nothing) but a long term war that would guarantee the use of Iranian nuclear weapons.”
We all must do what we can to learn more about this issue that so closely affects Israel and the rest of the world too. There are those gung ho to bomb Teheran and others urging restraint and caution. All these voices must be heard.

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I Read the News Today

This past week a teacher from a local grade school pleaded not guilty in a West Roxbury District Court to charges of indecent assault and battery on a child under 14 and posing a child in a state of nudity. He also pleaded not guilty to related charges of possession of child pornography in Brighton District Court.  Anyone who reads the news is used to reading/hearing such stories.  The recent Penn State Jerry Sandusky scandal splashed around all kinds of salacious, shocking stories for days.

We may be used to shocking news stories involving inappropriate physical contact between adults and children, but we are hardly inured to them.  The sexual exploitation of children is so heinous that mention of it causes us to recoil in pure revulsion. The betrayal of trust, the psychological and physical injury, the cynical use of power and fear to intimidate the child victim – all these reasons and so many more make us feel sick and angry.

This story has some added dimensions for me.  Since I first heard mention of it on the radio, I’ve been reeling. Because the teacher in question taught one of my daughters at Underwood School for second grade.  Because the teacher in question is a bright, friendly young man.  Because the teacher in question was always the quintessential nice Jewish boy.  Because we had the teacher in question at our home for various Jewish holidays.

I feel utterly torn apart by this turn of events.  As a father, a rabbi – a human being for God’s sake! – I am unequivocally enraged by Mr. E’s conduct, and if he is guilty, I want him to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. [By the way, I’m calling him Mr. E, the name by which he’s been known for years; I won’t use his full name because, quite frankly, it hurts me too much.]

But in addition to my rage and disgust, I have a deep sadness.  I always felt so happy to see Mr. E around town.  My daughter and her classmates had so much affection for him, and their feelings led me and almost all of the parents of his students to also feel positively disposed towards him.  He seemed to be such a good guy…

And there’s the utter paradox.  Mr. E was a good guy.  And at the same time, he engaged in behavior that was both immoral and illegal.  What does this mean?  Well, for one thing it means that we can never really know another person.  The human mind is capable of twisting itself into the darkest of places.  The private obsessions, the dreams and nightmares we live with can destroy us.  The enormous pull of addiction, the emptiness we can feel and what we may use to try to fill it… all of this can plague us endlessly.

My heart aches for Mr. E’s parents.  I can’t even imagine what it must feel like to see your grown child brought down so low.  They believe he’s innocent – I hope he is.  But reading the charges leads me to suspect that Mr. E is guilty.  And if so, that means Mr. E’s parents have to acknowledge how little they know their own flesh and blood.  And of course my heart aches for the victims, the scared, scarred children used and abused by Mr. E and others.

And so on this Shabbat I pray for justice and for mercy.  I pray for openheartedness and forgiveness.  I pray for strength as I continue to walk through this wild maze called Life.

What I Receive from the Black Church Experience

After a recent workout at the JCC, I showered, dressed, and entered the lounge area with my lunch.  I was alone and so had the full run of the television.  That meant I could surf the channels just the way I like to do and I would drive no one crazy.  So I spread out my meal and started clicking.  Within a minute or so I stumbled into the religious channels.  I stopped on one them: it was a black preacher giving a Bible lesson.  I don’t remember his name.  But I do remember that he had on a great suit, and that the church where he was preaching was beautiful.

The preacher’s clothing was nice, but hey, I have some nice suits.  And even though the auditorium sat 1500 people, we can seat a thousand for the High Holy Days.  What drew me in wasn’t even the preacher himself.  And I love the style of black preachers: the drama, the power, the charisma?  It drives me wild, and I could listen and watch all day.  The rhythm and the alternating gentleness and loud declaration remind me of good jazz.  In that regard, the extemporaneous mixed with the written is something I have chosen to emulate over the decades.

What drew me in was the congregation.  A PACKED auditorium of mostly black man and women over 45 (the kids and teens have their own simultaneous service/study in another part of the building; the session I watched was for the grown-ups).  They were exquisitely dressed and of course speaking up regularly, encouraging their preacher with “Amens” and “Yessir”, and “Halleluyahs” and the like.  But here’s the best part: everyone in that auditorium – EVERYONE! – had a Bible.  And they followed along, avidly taking notes.  I was so envious.

As I watched a man came in and sat down.  He looked at the tv and then he looked at me.  He sat quietly for a moment, perhaps scanning the room for the channel changer.  “Uh, Rabbi?  What exactly are you doing?”  “What am I doing?  I’m learning some Torah.”  The guy laughed.  “No, really.  This preacher is amazing!  And look! There must be 2000 adults learning with him.”  I think he got nervous, and being that this was not a tv show with commercials, he got up and left.  At least that’s what I assume.  I wasn’t paying attention to anything but the preacher, his congregation, and the Torah he was teaching.

Now look: I understand that the history of the African American religious experience comes from a very different place than the Jewish experience.  I know that our roots are very European and our worship style has one foot in Hasidism and the other in German Lutheranism, and maybe an arm in Litvak yeshiva formalism.  I know that men and women singing together and even sitting together are relatively new on the timeline of Jewish history.  I’m not advocating that we worship in the manner of the folks I watched on the JCC tv.  What I am saying is that we could learn a lot from that black preacher and his congregation of learners.  What inspires adults who work hard all week to go to church, personal Bible in hand, and really learn some Scripture?  What is the particular call of that community?  Is it the sense of connectedness?  Is it the sense of acceptance and safety?  The joy shared by the preacher?

I don’t really know what it is, but I want to think about this some more.  I want to learn how to bring more passion, more joy, more!

Shabbat Shalom

rebhayim

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Courage is not a Miracle, It’s a Choice

I know we talk the miracle of Hanukkah story. You know, the cruise of oil that contained only enough oil for one day lasted eight days? Well, as you may also know, the historicity of this miracle is questionable. There is obviously no ‘proof’, no hard core evidence that supports this story. This is ok, because the story, true or not, reminds us of the need for perseverance, for having faith in God even when the odds are all against us. It is actually the quintessential Jewish story of believing in God’s presence in the darkest of places: Jerusalem in 148BCE, Mainz in 1096, Barcelona in 1492, Kishinev in 1903, Berlin in 1933: these places and a thousand thousand more were scenes when the end felt very close. That we keep going forward, that we survive to rise to greater heights, is like a cruise of oil for one night only that cannot be extinguished.
Tonight as Shabbes comes I’m thinking about another story. Instead of recalling the miracle of the oil, I’d rather focus on the human effort behind our survival. Because as much hope and courage as we get from God’s presence, it is individual Jews and their prodigious efforts that enable us to ultimately triumph. It is Jews who have stated to the world, in the words of Tom Petty, who, while not Jewish, does state a very Jewish ethic: Well I won’t back down, No I won’t back down/ You can stand me up at the gates of hell, but I won’t back down./ I’m gonna stand my ground, won’t be turned around/and I’ll keep this world from draggin me down/ and I won’t back down.
There’s no miracle here, just hard work and faith that the future will be better than the present. The courage to go on comes from the thrum of life that God plants within us, but that we must tune into it in order to hear the sounds of freedom that are so inspiring. It’s that simple. And that hard. Maybe it’s like football: God calls the play but we execute it.
Enjoy Hanukkah and Shabbat. Listen for the call and get in there and play!
Shabbat Shalom and Hag Sameach,
rebhayim

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Prayer Critic

Last week we exhibited the artwork of three congregants. Either through subtle genius (Carol Miller) and/or the guiding hand of the Holy One, each artist’s work exists in its own rarified space. Howard Fineman works in photography: paper. Bette Ann Libby works in mosaic and sculpture: clay. Iris Sonnenschein works in quilts and tapestries: cloth. Paper, clay, and cloth. Three absolutely different media. If you mush them together you get a mess. But if you watch how our artists work with their chosen substances of expression, you get to see profound things happen; things like art.
What makes art good art is, of course, the foundational kernel of art criticism. Men and women have, for centuries, relied upon the judgment of others to help them decide a) whether or not they should see a particular play or go to a particular exhibit, etc., or b) once they’ve seen a particular play or exhibit, what exactly they saw.
Sometimes criticism is vital. There ARE complicated pieces of art or films that are more fully appreciated when seen through the prism of a scholar/educated observer. I truly benefit from the criticism of Roger Ebert, for instance. He understands every aspect of filmmaking and therefore has a more complete sense of how editing moves a film along. And it’s true that if he writes a negative review of a movie, I will definitely not go to the cinema to see it. Maybe a glance when it comes on tv, but I won’t spend theater money. Ebert, like any great critic, is a mentor, a teacher.
I also like good art criticism because I never learned anything in college or rabbinic school about art. At all. It’s a gaping hole in my education, so I need a good guide to help me contextualize it . What are all of those objects doing on the canvas in Renaissance painting? When Jackson Pollock painted Blue Poles, was he primarily composing or was he feeling? Do abstract artists know what it is they are going to create? Did John Coltrane hear a solo in his head before he played it?
I am all in favor of the critic as Seeing Eye dog, as canary in the coal mine of culture. The critic is the priest, the intermediary between the art and the beholder/listener. I’ve wondered about this model for contemporary praying. Sure in the old days we had priests who were our intercessors. But maybe it’d be nice to have a prayer critic or coach – and I include myself as a person who could benefit. Where to focus our words, how to use meditation in our prayers, what some other models of prayer may look like?
Our relationship to and with God can be so deeply intimate. But if we don’t think about that relationship, if we don’t nurture it, explore its various dimensions, then it remains superficial and unsatisfying. We can better define and nurture our spiritual lives, but not alone. The more we can learn about our relationship to God, the more deeply powerful prayer becomes. Perhaps just by asking each other a question or two about how we pray – or don’t pray – we can shake loose some perspective that we haven’t had before. Not critiquing prayer styles, or absence of prayer styles, but encouraging with words of respect and curiosity. I don’t know how we might accomplish this, but it occurs to me that sacred people already have the tools: consciousness, empathy, tradition, knowledge.
In fact if we think of the art of prayer, it may give us the courage to mold our prayers like clay, to stitch together our prayers like fabric, to compose our prayers like a photo. We become the critic and the artist all at once.
Shabbat Shalom
rebhayim

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